This is my first ICLW. Welcome to my new blog, I feel like I am settling in and getting to know really great people.
First, a little more about me and F. We have lived together for 10 years and today is our 6th wedding anniversary. Last year at this time it didn't occur to me that our relationship had the shadow of infertility looming over it, that our love for each other would include a sadness that both brings us together and makes us question everything we are doing and experiencing as a couple.
Wow. I really didn't expect to write that. It just sort of came out. Its the part of infertility I don't like thinking about. It takes me to a dark place, a place I don't want to be in on my wedding anniversary.
Oops, I apologize--this is ICLW, many of you are stopping by and I should be a more optimistic hostess. Thanks for visiting!
How about an update to my post about coming out to friends at a girls brunch? Well, it didn't happen. The topic of having kids did, of course, come up but the question was, "Do you want kids?" Ha! That is easy--the answer is, YES.
However, the night before I went out with one of these friends for a glass of wine. We were talking about how I didn't change my surname when I got married and she asked what we will do about our future child's last name. I told her our ideas and then she asked:
"Are y'all trying to have kids yet?"
So I came out.
I said, "We've been trying for a year and a half (matter-of-fact-ly)."
She said, "Really? Well, maybe it just means its just not the right time."
I corrected her, "No, it means something is wrong."
The End.
5 comments:
Hi Jill, I'm not officially doing ICLW this months but thought I would leave a comment anyway and say thanks for following my blog.
Happy wedding anniversary! Fingers crossed you get your BFP soon.
Kim
Happy anniversary! I hope you had a special day!
Welcome to ICLW!
ICLW
#41 http://themissruby.blogspot.com/
First off, Happy Anniversary!
Secondly, comments like "maybe it's not time" or "it will happen when it's supposed to" drive me ABSOLUTELY BONKERS. Great response - I'm sure it shut her up and hopefully it will make her think before she gives unhelpful advice in the future!!!
I think that is great that you mentioned it to your friends even though you were drinking. I haven't mentioned it to many people at all. Happy Anniversary!
Thanks for the anniversary wishes and thanks for your comments.
lowfatlady, coming out is definitely easier over a glass of wine, but not the reason I decided to speak up that night! I made the decision to answer the when and why questions about having a child truthfully from now on when I am asked, wine or no wine. And yes, I drink on occasion while ttc unless given a reason by my doctor not to.
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