I met some of my in laws for dinner tonight, well actually, I thought I was meeting my BIL and SIL for an early dinner. Two of their kids are at "Granny's" for the week so they just have the baby and were happy to go out for a bit more relaxed dinner experience. It turned out to be more of a family dinner when they invited a cousin and her spouse, my father-in-law and the cousin's dad. To everyone's surprise...you got it...cousin is pregnant. And everyone is happy, including me, happiness somewhere behind the sadness and longing I immediately felt. I just wasn't prepared for that news, in person, not shielded by a computer screen on fb or email or the phone. I was happy, but oh how painfully I wished for that moment, to make that announcement to F's family.
But then cousin said something that made me pause and think. She said she was almost 8 weeks--and had her second ultrasound today. And I wondered if she went through infertility, to be monitored so closely so early. And it made me want to give her an extra hug and truly feel happy for her.
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I know what you mean. It can be hard when people tell me there pregnant. This week I have found out five of my friends are pregnant and half of those are pregnant with there third. It has been a hard week.
I am just trying to keep my head above water and keeping the hope going. and it is my birthday week. So I have been going out with friends for lunch, retail therapy, and doing the blog thing. So I am keeping the hope for you this week too
It sounds like you dealt with the situation with grace and an open mind. That's more than I can always say to myself. Here's hoping you can make your own announcement soon!
It's always hard, but you dealt with it well.
It's interesting how almost every TTC'er I know finds it easier to be happy for someone who also struggled. It's not that we wish ill on others...it's just easier to celebrate with someone you can empathize with.
Hang in there!
I agree with Josey - it's much easier to be happy for people if they've been down the same path we have.
Thanks for stopping by my blog - I'm now following you! Where in Texas are you for your project? I'm in Houston.
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