I opened an email from the financial coordinator who manages the paperwork for the IVF Refund Plan. The first line read, "Congratulations!"
We have been approved to move forward with the refund plan. It struck me as perhaps inappropriate to offer congratulations. As if we had been accepted to graduate school, or won a trip to Iceland (the first destination that came to mind, for some reason). And that it was sent via email rather than a phone call. What about the people who don't qualify? Congratulations to those who do just makes the whole concept seem exclusionary and elite. I guess in a way it is, and it made me uncomfortable.
The IVF nurse at the group orientation for couples going through IVF for the first time said, more than once, that we were lucky. Lucky to be at our clinic. Lucky that we won't have to give ourselves IM shots of Progesterone in Oil. Lucky for this and lucky for that. I wished she would stop. I'm sure no one in that auditorium felt lucky. I bit my tongue. But to be fair, I do feel I am at a good clinic, in good care. And I am so relieved that we qualified.
So maybe I am lucky to be where I am, considering our circumstances. And compared to many in similar circumstances I am lucky to qualify for the refund plan. No, still not lucky. Lucky is not the appropriate word. Neither is, "Congratulations!"
more updates to come
7 comments:
First off -- I'm really glad to hear that you were approved for the refund plan. I'm crossing everything I've got for you.
But, you're right. Nothing about this is "lucky" or really deserving of congratulations. That's kind of obnoxious.
Weird choice of wording for sure.
Your butt is going to be lucky not to get progesterone IM shots!!!
Anyway, congrats (?) on getting approved for the funding and refund plan.
That is an unusual choice of words for letting you know that you can participate in their program that was completely designed with their gain in mind. Yes it's great to be there, but the reason there is such strict criteria is to make the risk with their while, financially and also to make their numbers look good. You should write them a letter and congratulate them because you chose them. :)
So glad that you were accepted into the program. It's a weird thing to be happy about, yes, but it will bring you piece of mind. Best wishes!
Very glad to hear you got into the program! No, it's not lucky, and you don't really win anything in this game of infertility, but still, it's a very good thing. I hope this is exactly what you need to get your baby!!!
Dumb question -- why are you able to avoid the PIO shots? I don't know much about the different ways of doing IVF, so I'm just curious. :)
@ Infertile Girl, It sounds like my clinic doesn't prescribe PIO, but endometrin for progesterone supplementation. I did not ask why. I am thankful I won't have any IM injections.
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