After writing my previous post in support of re-writing the fairytale story of building our families, I came across An Egg Donor's Tale, written for Motherlode in response to Thernstrom's nytimes article Meet the Twiblings. An anonymous women, now a mother in her early forties, relates her experience as an egg donor when she was in her 20's and points out some of the failings in Thernstrom's article--failings that, in my opinion, are always the trouble with fairytales.
She also adds more than just a critique of Thernstrom's writing. An Egg Donor's Tale brings up the long term and complex emotions and connections she feels toward the children, now teenagers, who carry her DNA but do not know how they were conceived, one of which she says, looks very much like her.
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Both articles are fascinating. Thinking about all of the different ramifications of the people involved makes my head spin, really. I am glad to have something like this out there, though.
Wow, that was an absolutely amazing article. Thanks for sharing. I only read through the first 20 comments or so and was completely blown away by the kind, sensitive, thought-provoking comments being left. So much to think about...
I read those articles the other day, quite amazing!!!
Also, I wanted to let you know that I did not think your comment said I was taking a risk. I actually just wanted to write something about home birth because I want people to know that it can be a good decision for woman, even those who have gone through IF, I noticed in your comment that it seemed like something that you were thinking about too, and I wanted to let you know what the midwife said about birth after IF.
Very interesting - thanks for sharing this article! It definitely makes me think. For me, I don't think I would use an egg or embryo donor without telling the kids. From the obvious medical reasons to the "right thing to do" reasons, every person has the right to know where they came from.
I am going to read the article this afternoon after I return home. Thanks for sharing the link, I all too often forget about egg donor being an option in this journey.
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